“It is what it is.” This is a phrase I’ve been hearing a lot lately, and it drives me nuts. Now, before you ask, I’ll tell you why. It is another way of saying that the situation is forced on you, and you have no control, and therefore bear no responsibility, for the outcome. If you know what I’ve been seriously researching this year, and committing to learn, you’ll know that I don’t believe that, and if you’re serious about success neither will you.
I’m not saying that you can control the actions of others. Here’s an example from work that illustrates this perfectly; one of my jobs is to sort the load onto metal boats, and wheeled out to the individual aisles. In order to sort the load properly, we need a minimum of 26 boats, and that will reduce walking, and increase productivity. During this time of the year, other departments take the boats we need leaving us with a severe shortage. If you say “it is what it is” you are resigning yourself to that fact, and you will end up frustrated in the end, because you won’t see any other options.
If, however, you say to yourself, “it is what I make it” you will no longer be so frustrated, because you will know that you control the outcome, and your mind will begin searching for solutions, instead of making excuses; and yes, there are always options.
In Jack Canfield’s book “The Success Principles” the first principle is, take 100% responsibility. Every speaker I’ve listened to, and every book on success I’ve read says exactly the same thing. You must take 100% responsibility for your life, and success. If you don’t, you are giving control of your life to someone else, and you will have no say in it.
Situations will happen in our lives, and this is unavoidable, but how you respond emotionally is what gives it the power in your life. Going back to the boat situation, let’s look at just the facts. We need 26 boats to efficiently process the load, to make it easier for others to do their jobs. Fact number 2, is we don’t have that number of boats available. There it is, those are the plain and simple facts. How we respond will determine how we remedy the situation. Others will have different ways of looking at the situation than ourselves.
The only thing that matters, in the end, is that we find a solution, and get the job done; but you will never reach that point if you resign yourself to the situation by saying “it is what it is.”
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