Archive for January, 2010

Resolution vs. goal

January 4, 2010

Last year, I posted a blog, and a video, on my 12 goals of 2009.  Out of the 12, I have achieved eight.  Every January, I hear the same question, “What is the difference between a goal, and a resolution?” For those who are still confused, here it is.

A resolution is a promise that you make to yourself right now.  Usually, a resolution is made half heartedly, it’s always short term, and it’s of something you should be doing anyway.  Prime examples would be, losing weight, saving more money, paying bills, and working harder.

In contrast, a goal is a promise to yourself, which will bring you to your dreams.  It is never made half heartedly, and is always long term.  Some goals may be finished within the year, but if they aren’t you can still continue trying to achieve them.

As an example, I will share some of mine.  My ultimate dream is to become a full time writer, and photographer.  Some of my goals from last year are:

1) Organize my time to include more writing.

2) Get at least one article written and submitted.

3) Take more photographs for my stock.

4) Write blogs that send a good message, and get more views.

6) Learn how to make quality videos.

8) Start making 100 dollars per week with writing and photography.

Not all of these have happened yet, but out of 12 goals, I have achieved eight.  The other four, I will continue working for. (to see a complete list of goals, read my blog from January first 2009.

As you can see, my goals are not the end result of writing full time, but they are steps, that once achieved, will be maintained until the ultimate dream is reached.

This, to me is the biggest difference between the two; resolutions are cosmetic quick fixes, while goals are a deeper, and more meaningful, step to something greater.  I hope this helps answer the question of why I don’t make resolutions, but I do make goals.

Enjoy,

Allen

Leaping before you look

January 1, 2010

The way I believe, I never call anyone stupid, that is, until today.  I had just gone to Wal-mart, and bought a new printer to replace the one that broke down.  The cab picked me up and we were headed down a busy street, when a car came barreling out of a driveway at top speed, and pulling a 180, just missing our cab, and a car coming from the other direction.

I’m not one to dwell on what could have happened if we were just a bit closer, that wouldn’t accomplish anything.  My calling her stupid was just a gut reaction, but I never actually talked to her, so she never knew what I was mumbling. After thinking about it, I realized I probably shouldn’t have jumped to conclusions.  This girl, for whatever reason, lost control of her car, temporarily.  She could have been drunk, irate over a break up, had a heart attack, or any number of reasons could have caused it.  The point of this is, before I assumed she was stupid, I should have had the facts.

One of my English teachers told me “People love conflict, even if they have to make it up.”  This is why tabloids are so popular.  I admit it, when O.J. Simpson was arrested for murder, the first thing I thought was Oh yeah, he did it. But there was no possible way I could have known that.

Jumping to conclusions makes it possible for rumors to spread so quickly, and for misunderstandings to escalate.  Some may say, “When I jump to conclusions, I get all the facts first.”  But if that’s the case, you are no longer “jumping” to conclusions.

When you are jumping, there is no time to think; you are assuming that you already know what the facts are, and you might even try to force the evidence to fit your own theory just so you don’t appear foolish.  I’m not saying “don’t jump to conclusions.”  You will anyways, that’s just part of being human.  What I am saying, though, is that before screaming, yelling, and sharing with the world, the bone headed thing someone else did, get the facts.  There may just be a reason they did what they did, that made it unavoidable.

To that girl, in the car, I just hope she’s all right, and the reason she spun out has been corrected.

Enjoy,

Allen