Every day we are faced with a multitude of changes, some we are painfully aware of, and others we never see. Change is inevitable; it’s how we handle it that will determine our future. Change forces us to make a decision on whether we accept, or reject it. Oh, and lest I forget, change does one other thing that is important. Some people think that it gives us strength, on the contrary, it just shows us the strength we already have.
A little over two years ago I went through a change that still tests me today. It was on a Friday, and I was trying to sleep before riding into work. I was also quite contented that two days before, the last of my bills were paid, and that all we owed was normal living expenses. I was having a lovely dream when my wife woke me up. She said she had to lie down because her left side was feeling fuzzy. I told her to give it a few minutes, and within ten minutes it was gone.
I had just started to dream when she came back in and told me that it was fuzzy again, and it was stronger. Within an hour, we had taken a cab, and checked her into the hospital. It wasn’t until later that night, in the hospital, that she had a mini-stroke, and fell on her knee, which led to major surgery.
Ever since I was young, I have been very firm in my rules of relationships, so I had accepted the role as “primary caregiver” for her recovery. She is still “recovering” and I am still taking care of her along with my two jobs. Some days, I don’t know how I keep going with this schedule, and the constant breaks in sleep, but I have kept going for over two years with the strength that I never knew I had.
“They” say necessity is the mother of invention, but I say that it also frees your strength. If this situation had never occurred I still wouldn’t believe that I had the strength to keep going, but I do, and I still am. Yes, it may seem overwhelming at times, but it has to be done, so the strength is still there.
I used to fight change, but now I accept it. I may not like some of the changes, but I can’t stop them from coming, so I am learning to live with them, and “go with it”
We shouldn’t be afraid of change; it is there to teach us how to apply our creative nature in helping others, and to show us our hidden reserves of strength waiting to be tapped into. One of my favorite TV characters is always saying, “Everything happens for a reason.” But I say that things will happen in our lives, and it’s our decision on how to handle it that gives it reason.
Don’t run away from change, learn from it, and use it to find the strength you never thought you had.
Challenge: Think about all the changes in your life, and how much strength you have already found.