Having a baby! It’s a life-changing event for both men and women. In the past, women would have showers and the men would just slap each other hard on the back, congratulate the father, and get back to work. In modern society, men and women can both have baby showers, but when you try to combine them, either the father or mother-to-be end up uncomfortable. The best thing is to plan separate showers; however, two showers can be costly. The woman’s shower always has been, and always will be the most important shower, and therefore the most expensive.
If you plan on throwing the father-to-be a shower, here are some tips on throwing a shower a man can feel comfortable with, at a reduced cost to you as the host, or hostess.
Decorating: The best advice I can give for decorating is “don’t”. If you send a man into a room with pastel colored streamers, and balloons, you’ll lose them to the sports bar in record time, to cleanse their disgusted egos of the horrific image.
The more you try to make it like a regular party, the longer they will stay.
Games: try to make the games as athletic as possible. Here’s one I came up with. Have a life-size picture of a baby with its arms straight up in the air, mounted on something durable so that it can stand up. Put a piece of masking tape on the floor across the room from where you place the picture. Then have each man throw a nerf football, and try to get it between the arms. The men who do get it in the right spot, get a prize.
Good prizes don’t have to cost a lot. Anywhere from five to ten dollars is a perfect range.
Gifts: Gifts should be wrapped in solid colors. Any sign of wrapping with pink teddy bears, or babies on clouds, and you can find him at the sports bar.
The best gifts for the father-to-be usually come with the label, “some assembly required”; things like cribs or strollers. This is a great way to show you think of him as part of a mother/father team.
Guests: Make sure that the guest list is all male, Even one woman in the bunch can throw off the balance, and someone is left feeling uncomfortable again.
Food: Dainty finger sandwiches and pink candy are great for a woman’s shower, but a “little” sandwich to a man is a six-inch sub. The best way to save money on this is to make the shower pot luck. Not only do you save money, but also there will be plenty of food.
One final tip, get help planning from the guests you invite. You would be amazed at what kind of ideas they could give you. This is also the challenge.