This past week on “Youtube” many tubers decided to have a little fun making parodies of the incident with Christian Bale blowing up on the set of “Terminator 4”, just because someone walked onto the set during filming. Before that was Bill O’Reilly shouting at his crew for not having something on the teleprompter; proving that he would be nothing without his crew.
Entertainers of every kind are getting paid millions for playing, and they think that just because they have fans, they are indispensable. There are thousands of people on the internet who are a lot more entertaining than Christian Bale, and a lot more believable than Bill O’Reilly. Those two, as well as other prima donnas feel they have the right to treat others with disrespect, for doing nothing, because they are “STARS!”
The thing they need to remember is that the type of respect they get from position and money is just a front coming from greed; I will treat you like you want if you give me what I want. True respect has to be earned. Not with money, or position, but from respect for others.
If we want to get that kind of respect, we need to remember that there is no one better, or worse than we are. We all have talents, and if we all work as equals we can do anything. My own philosophy is that I never respect a position, I respect people who show respect to others. I work at Hannaford stocking shelves at night. People who only respect position say that I work for Hannaford. True respect says I work with Hannaford to give the customers what they need.
The customer service statement I made last year was written to reflect this. “I am not here to give customers what they want. I am here to give customers what they need and to help them get the most out of what they have.” If a customer came into the camera store I also work at, and asked for a point and shoot digital, but they want full versatility, they need an SLR digital. Point and shoot Cameras are very limited in abilities.
Of course respect goes beyond the work place, it should be part of our everyday lives. It’s what gives us the drive to help others, and to think beyond ourselves. It’s not always easy to tell the difference between authentic, and false respect, but it can be done.
Just keep this in mind. False respect says “I will stick with you as long as I get what I want.” True respect says, “I will stick with you whether you give my something or not.”
Challenge: Take a closer look at some of your relationships. If the respect is based on someone wanting something in return, then it’s a false respect, and it should be worked on.